[CatStarESP4]

I am 30 years old and I haven't had a date in nearly five years (and that was a disaster in itself). I don't have a boyfriend and hadn't had one since High School. My mom thinks that is not normal since some of my sisters are either married or in relationships (and I am the oldest member and alumna of the sorority). Part of me thinks I am not ready to be in a relationship and the other part thinks that I should make it happen. I have a crush on a friend and he is seven years my junior (he is only 23). I don't know if it will materialize and survive a lengthy distance (he is in NY and I am in Arizona). I am also shy and don't always open up that easily!

I understand that you are depressed and lonely because you are not in a relationship. Sometimes it happens when you least expect it, but other times you need to make that move. Have patience and it is not stupid to feel like this! Good luck!