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Originally posted by Professor:
Upon reading the initial post I intended to express my sympathy. After reading the remaining posts I could only be reminded of my own history. My cousin became pregnant while in high school. After the family accepted her fate my cousin began planning for her baby. I have always "looked up" to my cousin who is two years older. She gave birth to a boy and asked me to be his godfather. Although I was very mature for my age, I had no idea how to care for a child. Imagine a young black male only 14 not old enough to drive but pushing a stroller around the neighborhood saying this is my godson. The memories are very vivid for me. Despite the many obstacles and difficulties, I am so proud of my godson. Today, the little man that was my high school mascot when I graduated is now a freshman football player at NC A&T State University.
To the educators I ask that you talk to your students about their current situation. Although their pregnancies are untimely, they now need to focus on how they can care for their child and continue their education.
"Life is about choices - some are good while some are bad"
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I have to say that I was staying away from this one until I read your post. I really appreciate what you've said.
You guys, I agree whole heartedly about that situation being sad. The fact of the matter is they're losing their childhood without even knowing the full extent of what they're doing.The fact of the matter is parenthood is really tough.
I was a bit afraid to post because of a previous post about un wed mothers trying to enter a certian soroity..I fit that discription. I'm unwed but I'm active as a sisterfriend hoping to one day be given a chance.
I had my daughter my last year of high school and got pregnant my first time having sex.Believe it or not I went several months without saying anything. I was afraid, ashamed, confused...you name it, I felt it. I lived my life the model student and child until then. When people finally found out my situation, they went out of their way to let me know how disappointed they were and how I should have known better. They talked endlessly about what a shame I was to my family and so on and so forth... In the end I felt worthless and still didn't know what I needed to do to take care of myself to make sure the baby was healthy. The fact of the matter is I was pregnant. There wasn't much I could do to change that fact, but I had no one there for me to at least direct me on what I should do next.I went 7 months without prenatal care and I almost died having my child.(When I finally did get my prenatal care it was because I started reading books and things like that to give me a clue. I WALKED to the doctor!)
I went on to finish highschool that year with honors as well as begin my first years of college with honors. I was determined to do that for me and my child and prove to others that I wasn't another girl on the road to nothing.
Throughout the years I've made it a personal quest to educate as many young girls that I can on sex, why it's great to wait, why they can stop after they've started, how to protect themselves properly ....and most importantly LISTEN WITHOUT JUDGEMENT. These girls need love and attention, they need guidance. I'm by no means saying that them having sex and getting pregnant is ok, but if it's already done don't turn your backs on them.Even the one's that seem like they're determined to be hoochie mamas, that may be all they've seen or all they know. If you have it in you to do it...Try to show them the right way.