Hey All:
Whoo! Yeah, check Beauty's profile and you will see that she registered on the very day that she responded to this thread. She apparently doesn't know how things work up in the spot.
I will say that when I began reading I was thrown off. I have always thought of myself as being really down to earth. Even denying that my upbringing was very fortunate.
When I met my current beau, he would do things like open the doors for me, etc., etc (basic stuff). Honestly I never DEMANDED that from a man and therefore, never got it (those who live in LA know a brothah who is chivalrous is hard to come by). I always felt like "I can do it myself." But now, shoot...don't let him or anyone else even think of not being chivalrous. They can get to steppin'.
I reflected on my own upbringing and realized that I have a lot of the same "qualities" of upbringing as many of you. The difference (well maybe not) is that I never cared to really talk about them. This was my attempt to "fit in." I didn't surround myself with other "princesses." I am from the CPT (Compton). So there weren't many. However, people would call me the "Fresh Princess of Compton" all the time and I never really liked it. I lived in a really big house, constantly remodeled, traveled, participated in many activities that were not privy to my peers, etc. In reflection I have to say that I am. I like, no love, to be pampered. I can do it myself or my beau or my parents...I am an equal opportunity princess. I also like to treat my man well and he knows it. It is reciprocated.
I have to agree that it is a state of mind. There is nothing with wanting the better things out of life. It begets ambition for most of us. Additionally, it allows some of us not to settle for things that we don't want or to know the difference when we see men/circumstances that we know we would rather not deal.
It took me awhile to figure it out. Had I realized that yes, I am a princess, I may have NOT dealt with some of the men in my life that I ended up dealing with.
I am in graduate school. I do work. Yet, as a student, if I need/want something, my parents will provide. In their minds, as long as I perform well in school I should not HAVE to pay rent/car note/insurance. Simply because THEY feel it takes MY focus off of my studies.
I can admit that some of the posts were real self-degrading (at least they sounded that way) with the curled up toes and what not but I think that Beauty just basically pissed folx off to the point where they were ready and willing to tell her to kiss off!
Sorry so long.
F.P.O.C.
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