For Those Who Think Being Spoiled or a Princess is a Sin:
I think you may have misunderstood some posts. As I noted in my post, it's a two way street (or at least it is in my relationship). I'm not a "high maintanence" kind of woman.
Yes, I am an educated black woman with a career and pay my own bills. I'm not dependent on anyone. I do for myself and that includes pampering myself. I believe in treating myself well. If I don't do it, who will? But I also treat my man well.
My fiance and I give each other gifts "just because". His gifts at times may be more expensive because he now has it like that. However, when we first met we were both poor, broke college students. When we began to date, we were still the same poor, broke college students. I have supported him and he has supported me.
I didn't have to wait on my fiance before I began saving for my future. That started years ago, but now we are doing it together. If something were to happen to one of us, then we would have the means and resources to care for the other. Some people may not take their marriage vows seriously, but we intend to.
Obviously, our concept and image of being spoiled or being a princess is different from one another. I consider myself spoiled growing up primarily because I was the baby of the family.
I didn't have to pout or throw tantrums to get my way. I got things when my parents felt I deserved them. I didn't have a job in high school or college because my parents didn't want me to. They felt it was best for me to focus on academics and extracurricular activities. My parents bought me my first car before I graduated from high school. I didn't ask for one. However, they did the same thing for my older brother and sister and treated me the same.
People on the outside gave me the label of being spoiled. It was business as usual in my family. It didn't make us dependent. We have all thrived and gone on to lead successful lives (of course, that depneds on how you as an individual measures success).
My mother refers to me as a princess simply because every Friday night is an "all about me" night. I simply pamper myself with a pedicure, manicure, facial, read my magazines in the middle of my bed, etc. She admires me for the woman that I have become. I admire her and my dad for the sacrifices they made and helping me to get there.
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