[astroAPhi]

I've told people this a zillion times, so people are probably tired of hearing about it... I think I need to save my spiel in a word file and cut and paste.

Hon, you are not the only one who has been there. Lots of us who joined for the right reasons get extremely frustrated when people seem to be a little slower than us maturity-wise or just don't seem to "get it".

I was frustrated for close to a year. I became a "Phantom Phi", and only showed up to philanthropy events. Towards the end, the only reason I didn't turn in my badge was because it was Inspiration (Initiation) Week and I didn't want to ruin it for the new members.

I talked to sisters who felt the same as I did, and finally had the guts to say something at our annual (or rather, first time we did it, but it's becoming an annual event) Chapter Forum. I told my sisters how they had really hurt me, and how I didn't come around because I didn't feel welcome, and I thought our sisterhood was lacking.

You know what happened? Sisters who I would have never expected to apologized to me. I was in shock.

Talk to the girls you trust or feel the same... if you get a group together, the sorority has to listen. With one person they can blow it off, but many voices are hard to ignore.

Please stick it out until you can go alumna... I'm not there yet, but the experience is absolutely wonderful if you can associate with an alumnae chapter.

PM me if you need to!