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Originally posted by White_Chocolate
ZTAMIAMI:
Do you think that parents should use less 'time outs' and start to view 'disciplinary actions' such as a swat on the behind with their hand?
My mom didn't do the timeout thing with me and my sister. I got whippings and I turned out fine. My little brother, on the other hand, was a 'time out' child who grew a foot and a half taller than my mom by the time he was 15. She couldn't whip him so she would 'take away phone privileges' or 'make him do house chores'. He's worse than me and my sister combined(he was partying by the time he was 16--basketball stardom does that to you). However, when I asked my mom why she never hit him but always got onto us. . .she said that 'disciplinary actions' are looked down upon.
I think that timeout can work in the instance of not sharing toys, not eatting all of your dinner, etc.
However, there are times when a kid needs a couple of swats(not a beat down as some say).
editted to add:
How do you plan on dealing with discipline?
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I can only speak for myself, but I have never once laid a hand on either of my daughters nor will I ever. How can you hit someone who is 75 pounds smaller than you? My husband and I have always used the "time out" method with them. I don't mean time out in their rooms where they have books and a television, but time out in a wooden chair in the butlers pantry.
We have been doing this since they were small, and it has always worked. I'm not saying they're perfect, because they're not. They have tantrums and they talk back, just like any kid. But they know that when I start counting them out, if I get to three and they haven't checked their bad behavior, they get their time out.
WC, if your mother had utilized corporal punishment with your brother, do you think he would not have turned out "worse than (your) sister and (you) combined"? Certainly, she would have had to come up with alternative punishment once he had a foot and a half on her, right? I just have to wonder about a punishment that becomes obsolete once the child grows larger than the parent.
Time outs work, but only if used consistently. That is key.