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Originally posted by ZTAMiami
Whitechocolate:
I don't plan on hitting my daughter in order to discipline her. I don't believe "time out" actually works unless you are correcting whatever wrong the child did. I think children need to be talked to. Not screamed at or hit. What do you really learn besides fear and anger towards the parent? If a child can't trust their parent to listen to them and teach them then what kind of person do they turn out to be? I've been doing a lot of reading on parenting and discipline and while you can't go by what a book tells you, it has opened my mind to different things.
I was hit quite often when I was little and you're right, I turned out just fine. But I don't think I really learned any lesson besides don't get caught. I would second guess telling my parents when I did something for fear of getting punished for it. I saw my father as not much else but a disciplinarian and the guy that gave me money. This is probably why I have so many issues with him now. I don't want to make the same mistakes with my children.
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you teach her that there are consequences for her actions. that's what kids need these days, some sort of ability to take responsibility. when kids are young, the only thing they worry about is getting punished....however if the right course of action is taken, that turns into whether or not the action they're contemplating is right or wrong. if they just get a "talking to" about what they did was wrong and no kind of punishment, you seriously think they'll take whatever you say seriously? no....they'll realize that the only thing they have to worry about is you talking to them and not have to worry about consequences. but hey, do you.....as long as the children have some sort of accountability then whatever method works fine. a beat down isn't always the best, but it'll work when things have to hit the fan.