Soror, I'm not really sure what to say about that, only because I'm a little confused on it myself. I'm not sure if our young women are feeding into this mess or not. I have to think so. I mean, they allow themselves to be exploited in these videos, and even exploit themselves (Lil Kim). Things are definitely not the same, and I'm only 26! As far as do men know how to really treat a lady? Oh, absolutely. They know how to treat a LADY. Not all women are ladies, though, and not all men want a lady. Hell, the Cash Money crew wants project chicks. (Disclaimer: I do like the song, but it's clearly not my anthem!) Do you know that at the club when that song comes on, these girls are charged up!! Happy to be project chicks!!! What is that all about??? Like I said, I like the song. I don't know the words to the song. It has a nice beat, I think, though. But I'm not singing it like it's Lift Every Voice and Sing, is all I'm saying.
Soror, I thought so much about this topic, that I posted a thread about it in the APhiA and KAPsi forums (check out the replies), at least on the topic of these women in these videos. I mean, is that all that's sexy anymore? Like you said, whatever happened to innuendos? Or leaving a little something to the imagination. I don't know. I think that a lot of women are feeding into this because it gains them acceptance, and deep down, everyone wants to be accepted by someone, y'know? I guess the thing of it is, how much is too much? I saw a girl on tv who said that it is just a means to an end. So maybe they don't necessarily buy into to all of the sex in videos and on tv and exploitation, but there's a method to their madness. They want to be famous!! They want to be actresses, singers, dancers, etc. This is how they get seen. And I know this is all over the place, I have so many thoughts and theories about this. I also think that a lot of it is that some women don't feel like they're being exploited or cut down. I think that a lot of women see sex as power, and use it as such. Like viewing Lil Kim as a feminist. Some people got really offended about the letter written to her in Essence a couple issues back (based on letters to the editor), so someone thinks she's doing something right. I don't know. It is a little distressing, though.
I think my post is jumbled and long enough, so I'll just stop here. I'm sure I'll be back, though.
