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In the previous relationship that I haven't broken out of yet, I ACTED the way I saw people act in movies (truthfully, what else do we have to go on?), and he didn't act that way back. I got very hurt and frustrated, thinking he didn't love me.
It wasn't til I realized that he did love me....the way he knew how...
I think we all need to learn more about the other person and let our fantasies about anything or ANYONE being perfect.
I can't be a size 6 and he can't be Matty McC, so we'd better let our illusions go and let our defenses down...
Love is hard, but it doesn't have to be a struggle. Usually when it's a struggle, you are struggling with yourself and your perceptions...
If you let them go, you will either realize that this person isn't for you and leave or look at things in a different way and love them for who they are.
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