[33girl]

My best friend got 2 open bids from the sorority I joined - one the semester before I went through rush and one the semester I rushed/pledged. She turned them both down. After I was initiated, she decided she wanted to be in ASA, and she got my roomie to go through rush too. It was VERY stressful, so I can feel where you are coming from. Basically all I could do was tell her I'd put in a good word for her, and I did, but in a way I was glad she didn't get a bid cause we were together so much I wanted something that was just mine. She had a lot of issues like pressure to pledge a legacy GLO, dirty rush by our RA, etc - I think if she would have just not listened to anyone else and gone with her heart's first choice she would have ended up in a sorority that she enjoyed. but oh well.

just be honest with your friend, tell her you have ONE VOTE and that's all you can do. If she can't understand that, it isn't your fault.