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I have a couple different random replies. And I am keeping in mind that you were new to power positions then.
1. You won. You beat him. Bully for you lol.
2. It seems that the fraternity much improved during and after your tenure. Thats a good thing.
However, if you used tactics of character assassination, then yeah, he is probably right, a lot of people probably do hate you or resent you, and rightfully.
Character assassination is just basically talking shit about people, often behind their backs. The result is usually that it changes the minds of people, or poisons them against someone or something.
The classic analogy, and forgive me ladies, is a circle of girls friends. In the circle, one of the girls with a strong personality develops a dislike for one of the group. So she starts really bashing the girl when she isn't around and slowly turning the group against her. One day the girl will wake up and find herself not welcome. Because even the girls that don't believe it, usually won't stand up for the girl being ostracisized because they don't want to be victimized.
What he seems to be saying, is that the perception of you (by him) back then, was that you were les likely to directly confront people with issues. You avoided confrontation
You were more likely to "talk" about people and issues indirectly. Speaking badly about the people in such a way as to cause others to think badly about them also. In other words talking shit lol. That is qunitessential politics. You especially see Beta males doing it.
Its a successful method, it just destroys a lot of the culture of an organization.
So if you did this through youth and inexperience he has some valid points.
If you did it through straight malice, then you shouldn't care.
And if you didn't use that method at all don't worry about it.
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