My brother just married himself a caucasian woman this past summer... I had a huge problem with that and I caused myself much distress over that, especially since I attended a HBCU. I prayed to God to show me why He was allowing this marriage to "happen", since I truly believed and somewhat still believe, my brother wasn't and isn't ready for a long term committed, maritial relationship. His mentality, I believe as the older sister, is a bit premature for handling all the impact that a serious marriage, based on God would take--but I could not and still cannot be the judge of that...
All I can suggest inorder for you to get through this, as I somehow did because of my love for Christ, is if you are seriously close to your uncle and you truly love him as your brother in Christ, or in spirit or whatever you believe, ask yourself, like I had to ask myself, is it worth all the bitterness and resentment you have to ruin you uncle's and your relationship for the rest of your lives, just for ~4 hours of a meal when all you have to do is "smile"? Can't you just smile for 4 hours??? You'd be amazed with yourself by taking on that attitude...
Ironically, if you find yourself kind a liking the girl he's bring "home" and he talks outta turn on her (like O.J.) and you call him on it in front of her and she's smart enuf to start defending her beliefs, then it might drive him away from her... This could backfire on you though. But most of the time, it's about control and domination that a brotha must feel over any woman. I've had to put my brotha in check when he talks outta turn to his wife. He may resent that, but as a woman, it's wrong for a man to publicly belittle you in front of family and friends. That is the very beginning of a domestically violent dysfunctional relationship and folks would want to seriously seek psychological help for themselves...
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