[MysticCat]

Seems like the crux of the problem is not alums coming back or being involved per se, but alums who still try to act like collegiate members. As an alum, I feel welcome to participate in events sponsored by my chapter, but I have to remember that, not being a collegiate anymore, I need to keep my mouth shut on how the chapter should be run, rush, and the like. I'll be glad to provide assistance when asked, and then I'll still be careful not to say too much. And, of course, there's the whole remembering-I'm-not-in-college-anymore part.