Butterfly, I think everyone here has addressed your issue accurately. I too am sorry that you had that experience and I hope that I do not sound harsh because I know that being cheated on hurts badly. You have to focus on the individual (s) here. Her sorority did not instill her morals. We could say that maybe she was always promiscious but kept it undercover until she got her letters, or maybe she was hurt after she received her letters and became promiscious, or perhaps she used to think of herself as a "nobody" and recieving her letters makes her think that she has the power to do whatever to whomever... who knows why she did what she did? If she's blonde, should we then say all blondes perpetuate the image of being slutty, or perhaps she goes to church and these churches should do a better job at teaching it's members morals or better yet let's jump straight to the source and just blame her parents... See how silly that sounds? Her sorority can no more control her poor judgement than your parents can control what you do outside of their home. All they can do is deal with her once they find out the type of image she is perpetuating. We all have our "black sheep". Focus on the individual. And really, I understand honesty in a relationship, but why was your boyfriend feeding you stories about these sorority girls that were coming on to him? Is HE fascinated by them, or was he attempting to shift the focus away from himself? You're right, he screwed up big time, and probably would have cheated on you anyway --- she was just easily accessible, however at this point, I would think his credibility is shot. Food for thought --- maybe he told her that you guys had broken up or that he was very unhappy with the relationship...
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