College, jobs, cars, all of these things are irrelevant, really, because a man could have all of these things, and you two could still end up unevenly yoked. I just got out of a relationship with a blue collar worker, and to tell the truth, he has a better work ethic than I do, in some respects. Truth be told, he complements me in many ways. Not to mention, who's to say that today's blue collar worker won't be tomorrow's millionaire. I mean, look at Master P. People see him as MR GHETTO. However, Percy Miller (same person) gets madd respect for his business savvy. And he is NOT college educated. I think in looking for a mate, we should look for things that make us happy, and complement us as well. I'm not going to miss out on my divine right mate by limiting myself to a particular "type" of man. (However, the hypocrytical side of that is that I wouldn't date outside of my race. So I might miss him anyway. But that's another issue.) White collar men have the same issues as any other man: fear of commitment, inablity to express his feelings, infidelity, etc. I am in no way saying take whatever is offered to you, but I am saying don't sleep on our blue collar brothas. Actually, now that I think about it, the whole thing kinda bothers me a bit. I mean, we (Black women) are always talking about there being a shortage of "good" Black men out there, but then we want to limit ourselves to only "professional" (I didn't know you had to be white collar to be professional) Black men with nice cars. It just don't make no sense. It really doesn't.
I guess I still haven't really answered the question, have I? I wouldn't say that it makes you elitist, or a snob. I say do what makes you happy. And stop listening to what people around you say. Lord, if I've learned anything, it's that!!! Although your friends and family truly want what's best for you, only you can determine what is good for you. And remember, like my Mommy always said, "What looks good to you is not always good for you, and what is good for you may not always look good to you."
Sorry for the long post. I'm a little chatty today!
