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Originally posted by Convinced:
Hi Sorors, Sisterfriends, Frats, and Visitors:
What's up? I'm sure that after reading my "crying pink and green tears" post, you all know about my lack of a man. Well, whenever I see someone that I haven't seen in awhile, they all say "Oh, so you've broken up with that guy? Girl, he was nothing but...trash, a nobody, worthless... etc, etc." Then, they go one to make comments about the fact that he doesn't have a college degree, had a gold tooth, a baby's mama, and drives an '80 Impala (hey, that rhymed!) They really don't know anything about the way he treated me (cheating, etc.) They base their opposition on the fact that I, with a job and two degrees, and cultural interests, was "too good for him". So, is it being an elitist to seek out guys with degrees, professional jobs, nice cars, good credit, etc.? This is what everyone thinks I should be doing. What do you all think?
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I don't think that degrees, jobs, cars, etc. necessary say that two people will be compatible. I do believe, however, that one of the most important parts of a relationship is communication. If you and your honey cannot communicate and do not have similar interests then most likely the relationship will not last or thrive. Looking for a man who enjoys doing the things you enjoy doing (whether that is going to the wrasslin' or the opera) is not, in my opinion elitist. On the other hand, seeking a man that has those things is not being a snob either. Although the car thing is taking it a bit far, to me. I know a brother that is paying over $600 to floss a phat ride and he has bad credit and lives with his mamma.
I know of several blue collar male/white collar female relationships that have lasted and thrived. It's really about folks being comfortable with who they are and who they are with.