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Originally posted by straightBOS
Can a Black man be dog simply because that is his personality? Or should the weight of the Black male species force him to pretend he is something he is not-- only for a "good" woman to find out differently after she's invested her time.
Can a Black woman be cautious because her mother taught her better w/o being labeled frigid? Or should she be gregarious, non-threatening, and needy so that she will not be pegged as "too strong" for a "good" black man?
Can we ever stop being Dr. Phil impersonators long enough to actually enjoy or learn from one-on-one relationships? Or must every relationship be tied to the fate of world?
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I think it is not in the nature of the Black Man to be a dog but situations make diffrent people. I think if we raise our young men to view our Black Women as great women then we will go farther. Does that mean that cheating will stop? Probably not. Even if there were more Black Men than Women just some people will cheat.
Please let us define what is a good Black Woman and A Good Black Man. I cannot say just because a woman "takes care" of her man that makes her a good black woman. As such just because a man "takes care" of his woman makes him a good black man. I think a moral compass must be applied to what we consider good not what Dr. Phil has defined for us.
The Black Woman is frigid because since birth she has been made to feel as if she is not only competiting with the society that oppress her but other Black women that are fighting for that "good" black man. Mother always says "You better keep that good man"
What about what is her level of happiness. Just because you are with a good man does not make him the RIGHT man for you. I think we need to retrain ourselves and children on how to handle relationships.
I was taught that a man that finds a wife finds his weight in rubies. Our black women should be more precious than rubies to us (Of course some of us like to have mutiple rubies )
But seriously we must change our whole state of mind in order to rise above these issues.