Reading all these posts make me wish Greekchat was around in 1997 (when I rushed). No one in my family had gone Greek, and until senior year, i don't think I even knew what a sorority was! Rushing never even crossed my mind, even though towards the end of our senior year, other girls in my class were busy looking for recs. No one shopped with me, groomed me, told me what to say-when I went through Rush, it's safe to say, I had NO CLUE. I went to school on the east coast, recs weren't needed, and I'm sure there was alot less pressure(than rushing at a Southern school).
If I have daughters, you bet I'll groom them for rush. They'll be legacies to Kappa, ChiO, AXiD, and ADPi, and I'd want them to be better prepared than I was!
But, like others have said, I'll encourage them to keep an open mind and find the home that they love and fit in!!