I know exactly what you feel like because I have had the same experiences.
I hate to say this, but sometimes no matter what you do, if you stand up for yourself many white people will see your as hostile. At let me tell you, an educated black person is downright intimidating to many whites.
Think about what you want to say and then when you see your group tell them. Look the straight in the face while you're speaking and use a good calm but firm tone. No matter how you mad you may get, stay CALM. But don't be afraid to say what you need to say. Don't let them make you into a push over. Remember you are a strong black woman!
If you are calm about it and they still feel offended then quite frankly that's on them. If you did what you wanted to do how you wanted to do it then it's all good.
Peace
[This message has been edited by Poplife (edited December 01, 2000).]
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