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Baby Daddy?
My son is 3, and will be 4 in July... I think that men are more protective of their daughters, but are more proud of having a son. Not being a father to one... just HAVING one. Something about being able to say, "my son," makes them feel like more of a man. Strange, but true.
If a man is going to stay around, he will stay around. If he is only marrying you because your kid has a penis, what do you want him for anyway? If he's not there because he loves you and the child you all created, why keep him... and MARRY HIM? Please...
You've already made one mistake. You had a child without the proper family structure in place. Your child isn't the mistake, you just made a mistake by having one out of wedlock. Why make another one by marrying a man who wouldn't have married you if you had a baby girl? (If you don't consider it a mistake, then you aren't worried about haing a male influence around anyway... you chose to be a single mom.)
There's nothing that I can think of that would make me marry my son's father. He is more interested in me than in our son. That has more to do with him that with the sex of our kid. If a guy is a jerk, he is a jerk. Whoever marries the jerk who is marrying them based on the sex of their kid, can't possibly expect that relationship to be solid.
I know some ladies just want to be married to somebody. I guess I am just not one of those people. My son's dad is physically attractive, and would probably marry me in a heartbeat... but like I said, a jerk is a jerk. I don't want to be married THAT badly! Good wedding pictures and a ring aren't worth being miserable. Kids need dad's or strong male figures, that is true. But they also need strong mothers who can tell the difference between a lifemate and just a mate.
The guy I date loves my son and I know if I had a girl, he'd love her just the same because he loves me, and my child is a part of me, no matter what the sex.
That is my 15 cents.
Eva
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