[PM_Mama00]

We've had this problem so many times. As an older member (I've been active for 3 years) I, too, feel that my chapter isn't the same as when I joined. That can be good, and bad. Possibly explain to these girls that things change and people change. If there are big problems in the sorority, have a fireside. Everyone sits in a circle, and the only person allowed to talk is the girl with a candle (or whatever you'd like to use). Each person brings up a problem that they have encountered (but nothing about one on one problems with sisters). Sometimes people talk about something goin on in their personal life at home, a problem with the sorority, or if someone doesn't have a problem they can either just pass the candle or say something positive.

What we've started this past semester is a Carnation Passing. We have a carnation, and it's basically the same as a fireside but EVERYTHING is positive. We've had things said from "I love my sisters..."blah blah blah, to even things like "happy Black History month", to "I like ice cream". It can get happy tearful, or just downright hilarious. This always puts the girls in a good mood before leaving a meeting... and we do it every meeting.

Other things are just have fun sisterhood events. Don't make it mandatory, but make it fun enough that everyone will show up. Go sing karaoke, or have a game nite, or even have a "Friends" night which is very popular with us. We just sit around and watch Friends and eat.