...Going to college is paying for friends and access etc etc etc...
buying a house or renting an apt in a certain area of town is paying for friends and access etc etc etc...what don't you have to pay for or "buy" to get access to these days, huh? NOTHING in life is free so to say something snide and derisive like joining a sorority or fraternity is "buying" friends (or access or whatever)...well I think that is just a crock...
of course that is just my two cents
but I won't charge you!