When our adopted children came through our door, we just didn't see them as being various colors, we saw them as OURS. There are too many colors of people in this house to remind ourselves continually--"Okay, that one's brown, that one's browner,etc."
At first, we tried to do things corresponding to each child's culture but that went over like a lead balloon, especially now that they're teenagers. They just want to be teenagers and be with their friends...they do NOT want to attend cultural festivals, celebrate other holidays, etc. So much for our years of preparation!
The birthmothers of all our children knew that they would be coming to a mixed-race home. It didn't faze them at all, they only wanted a loving home for their children. The children have thrived, excelled in school, had zillions of friends of all races, and been adored by us. Isn't that what it's all about?
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