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This letter was written in response to an article in the Sister 2
Sister Magazine (January 2000 issue).

Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male
readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst
Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and
give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles
Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn
from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA.


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This is one of the very reasons why I still haven't accepted interacial dating. I also live in Minnesota, and there are some beautiful, educated African American women here. It saddens my heart to see so many of my sisterfriends single-like me. I can count on one hand how many young black couples I see at the mall. This is no lie! Ladygreek, you might have to back me up on this one. Ultimately, it's up to the brotha to decide who he wants to be with, but it's a sad day when sistas are preparing to live life without a husband because of this...