sphinxpoet,
Depending upon who you speak with and (exactly as you stated) what stage of life the sister is in, you will get all types of answers to this question. Personally, I have reached a point in my life where I am intersted in a man who can add to my life (not make my life). I realize that I need a man to bring things to the table that can enhance me and my life (not make me and my life). For example, I have completed an undergraduate degree, I have worked for the school system for 3 years, and presently, I started grad school full time. I do not need a man that cannot help me with study techniques, help me come up with a better budget plan, or help encourage me through graduate school. I'm not interested in incorporating a "dangerous" brother in my life. I encounter enough danger by just walking in the city, riding in my car, or catching a weekend flight from state to state. The last thing I need is danger up close and personal in a relationship.
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