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Originally posted by 9 Pearls:
I don't get it. If you are already a member, why can't you be married in the NPC? If you are still in school, why would you want to go alumnae when your sisters are in school. It is possible to have a husband and/or husband and baby and still remain active. Is this a social thing where she won't be able to party anymore, because it sounds absurd. If she can't manage them in school, then what makes them think she can manage the work of an alumnae chapter, a job, and family?
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In my opinion, it's not so much a social thing--it's not because "she won't be able to party anymore". It's just that, in NPC groups, so much of life centers around the house (in many cases, not in all of them)...which, if a member gets married, she won't be living or eating in the house, so she won't be able to enjoy the full benefits of membership.
Also, there's an issue of commitments. Like someone posted earlier, Rush workshops and retreats, not to mention Rush itself can take up a lot of a member's time, sometimes 80-100 hours during Rush period (which can happen more than once a year!). This seems like an unrealistic thing to ask of a married woman, with a family...who's got other priorities than her sorority--like, school, and her family, and possibly work. Being inducted as an alumnae member isn't a punishment.
What do NPHC groups do for women who are married during the course of their collegiate careers?