Hello Ladies, I am a new SF to the forum, but I would like to comment on goodies247's topic. I think the reason it is difficult to make a clean break from a bad relationship is because there is a lot of reminiscing about how it/he "USED" to be. Women have a reputation of trying to change a brother. But what they don't realize is that we are not trying to change him, we are just waiting, hoping, praying that the man we met in the beginning will surface again. You have to admit, we are all on our best behavior in the beginning of a relationship but when the facade fades and the masks come off...who are the two people left? You have a woman who is into her man (usually) and loves the fact that they have gotten closer and know things about each other, you also have a man who wishes the mystic was still there. When the mystery is gone and familiarity sets in, men lose interest and women bust their AS*** trying to make things go back to how they were. But if he wasn't who he profesed to be, then we're left trying to "make" him into the man we want, thus the problems begin. I don't know your situation, only that you are hurting and girl I have been there. The only words to leave you with is something that helped me get through.... Know that you are a child of light, you are an extraordinary creation by God and no one can break you! Especially not a man who can't display actions of a gentleman.
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