Well I can't speak for every sista that has been in your situation but I can tell you this....
One of my closest friends has been in a relationship with her guy for almost 4 years-now during this whole time, all he's done is cheat, lie, and intentionally do things to hurt her. She found naked pictures of other girls, would hear his celli ringing at 3 in the morning, etc. She would break up with him time and time again, but nonetheless she would come running right back to him. She would say things like "Well, I know he loves me; we're just going through a tough time now..." and other things of that sort-basically making excuses to cover his tracks.
But after so many times of getting hurt, she had come to realize that the only reason that she put up with him and his nonsense was because she was scared-scared to be alone, scared to go out and meet new people, scared to start over with a new relationship. Staying in this relationship not only made her weary of relationships, but it also hurt her self-esteem and confidence; he had her thinking that no one else would want her. But she finally became true to herself & realized that this was not healthy, and that she could do better.
Now, this may not be your case, but I think that what she told me had a lot of truth in it. I hope that this can help you out in one way or another!!
God Bless
Classy_Diva5
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