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Originally posted by scpiano211
thank you. I just didn't want to drag MY specific letters in it. Even if I weren't in my particular sorority I would probably see it the same way because I know lots of people not join because they didn't join in college. I didn't even really know it existed until we initiated a lady as an alumnae and I didn't agree with initiating those out of school. To me, people can see it as an "easy in" if they don't join while in college and they'll in turn pay much cheaper dues. Also, I just don't see it as fair to people like myself that had to go through Recruitment 2 times to get into a sorority. I mean I have to work a job, maintain 15 to 17 hours worth of school, volunteer, and do things with my sorority. Whereas someone that's an alumnae, they will just deal with a possible career and a possible family.
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My mother, a PNAM, couldn't AFFORD to be in a sorority in college because she was putting herself through a private school. "Easy in?" I doubt it. Sororities are not about dues, they are about sisterhood. I highly doubt women say "I won't join in college, I'll do it afterwards and not pay dues!" I don't think any PNAM with that as her motivation would make it far withmost groups. Women who are alums have careers and families (everybody has a family...), and they too volunteer, belong to churches, and do things with their sororities. I think you have a very exclusive attitude going on. What if a woman was a triple-threat legacy to ZTA but went to a college that didn't have a chapter? Rather than join a group there, she waited until graduation because there was nothing but ZTA for her. You think she wouldn't be a good member because she didn't pay nm fees? That's ridiculous.