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Originally posted by sugar and spice
First of all, if you think that getting initiated as an alumna is easier than going through rush, that shows how little you know about the process. Go through and read some of the threads about women who have initiated as alumnae. During my collegiate rush experience, all I had to do was go to some parties, make small talk and then I got a bid. These potential alumnae initiates must go through a process which is far more involved, far longer, and most of the time more difficult than collegiate rush. It is not "the easy way out." Were you subjected to a full background check before recruitment? Probably not. Did you have to spend months waiting to see if a group was going to invite you back? No. Were you only supposed to approach one group (or at the most, maybe two) at a time? No.
Not to mention that a family is a full-time job, 24 hours seven days a week, especially if you have young kids. And those who also have a job outside of the home will be working 40-60 hours a week. Personally, I think that's a little more stressful than college, and this is coming from someone who goes to school just as much as you do, balances homework, volunteer work, a boyfriend, and sorority, and has worked a job while at school in the past (although I don't currently). I think you are going to be disappointed if you expect "the real world" to be less stressful than college.
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Sugar and spice, You have summed up what i have been thinking all through out this thread. thank you
I was not going to get involved in this mud slinging fight with the misinformed "CIA "spy barbie" wanna be" thinks or blurts out there to cause chaos among us, but i will say i find her remarks down right insulting!
I had so many barriers against me in college to pledge and i never got to exp the bonding in college. But i will tell you my Alpha Phi sisters don't see AI written all over me they see Laura who is also an A Phi just like them. If that isn't bonding then i don't know what is! I am a PROUD AI and i am very active in my Alumnae chapter as VP of Membership and am looking to get more involved when time lets up to get involved hopefully with a coll chapter.
AI is the hardest thing to do. Don't get me wrong i was very blessed to approach my initation the way i did. It took me 6 months total. and i love every moment of being a A Phi! But i will tell you the road leading from college graduation in 95 to June of last yr was hard. I searched out a few GLOs who had the possiblity o f AI and all three either ended in heart break or nothing becoming of it.
I have heard in many replies that during formal rush, "sit pretty , make small talk and get a bid"...if AI was that easy life would be a happy place. AI you put yourself out there for display and got to prove why you want to become aprt of the sisterhood. Ladies.....that is hard! You really want to want it to make it thru some processes of AI that i have heard about. There is no easy way in.
some of my sisters on here will tell you how much anxiety i went thru waiting and wondering if i was in or not. Satx*aphi will tell you as she calmed me down a few times. formal rush is 3 to 4 days...AI is a lot longer ....try months! I would do it all over again knowing i would be a Alpha Phi !
with wanting to be an AI as much as we all wanted to and what we went thru not to mention shouldering work, family, school and other outside commitments i think AIs are a great breed of sisters because we worked hard to get where we are at and show our love and pride of being a member of a GLO. i say WE ROCK THE HOUSE!
PROUD PROUD member of ALPHA PHI dang it!
ALUM INITATE 2002!
Laura