well i do have some good news - i am not a statistic
we were casually chatting on IM and we were talking about past relationships and i asked him if he had ever dated someone who was needy and couldnt let go. he said he was always very honest with people and i said i was as well. i went on to say that i hoped things were cool between us and he said yes, but as he told me before we met he isnt sure if he wants to get into a serious relationship until he gets out of the marines in august and moves back here. i told him i completely agreed because i wasnt looking for that right now either, and that i just enjoyed talking to him and hanging out with him - he said he felt the same way and we are both glad we are on the same page.
after that, everything went back to normal and i enjoyed another 4 hour marathon phone conversation last night
thanks for the advice