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I was just talking about this today at work! My fiance and I moved in together after college pretty much out of economic necessity. There is no way I could have afforded an apartment by myself, and there are no jobs in my hometown for him. So, we moved to Pittsburgh together and lived with his parents. (THAT is a true test of the relationship. I would *highly* advise NOT doing this. EVER. NEVER EVER.) After a few months, we have our own apartment, and it's a real learning experience. We're learning how to share responsibilities before the wedding craziness, which I have found to be very good.
However, the girl I work with did not move in with her SO before they were married. She enjoyed starting everything new together. She said it was definitely a shock getting used to some of his strange habits and all, but she wasn't going to divorce him over his doing the dishes before he eats dinner. Whereas if someone wasn't married, it's easy to let those little things build up, drive you nuts, and move out.
Generally, it varies couple to couple. There is so much more to making a relationship work than the physical space you share and when.
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