I'm glad you liked the topic Monique. I wanted to post it because I'd seen various male perspectives on women that are forgiving, ... but so far, only one male has responded that he would forgive if the shoe were on the other foot. Interesting. Kudos (yes, I said kudos)to Ape.
I also wanted to see the stances of everyone on forgetting and staying. Here is a quote that I found in "Light for My Path":
"I can forgive, but I cannot forget," is only another way of saying, "I will not forgive." A forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note, torn in two and burned up, so that it can never be shown against the man. - Henry Ward Beecher
My stance is I would forgive and forget, although it would take time and much healing (which I would expect my mate to understand, considering...). And if he did it again, I'd forgive him again, but someone would have to go. I could forgive him from afar
but obviously not trust him if he keeps doing it.
[This message has been edited by tickledpink (edited August 27, 2000).]