Okay this is my take on the situation and I speaking on a strictly personal basis. If my man cheated on me I would of coarse be hurt and angry. Once I took the time to calm down and evalutate the situation I would have to determine what possible reason he could have had to cheat. Was it something that I have done? Was it something that I didn't do? Was I paying enough attention to his needs or was I being selfish? Were the lines of communication open and clear? Were there problems in the relationship? If there was a possibility that I could have been neglecting his needs in the relationship then I feel that I would be the one to "partially" blame for the cheating. Especially if he openly tried to communicate his needs to me and I chose to ignore them. I know that I cheated on my ex-boyfriend of three years because he wasn't giving me the emotional support and the attention that I needed to make me feel that I was still an important part of his life. I told him countless times how I felt and I continually expressed to him what I needed. It even got to the point where I told him that what he's not doing another man will do. He chose to ignore that so when it got to the point that I did cheat on him several times (with the same person who was someone that I had been previously involved with) I didn't feel a bit of guilt about it. It took almost an entire year of trying to make the relationship work before I actually got fed up and decided to cheat. Why did I cheat in the first place instead of ending the relationship? Because I loved him and had he made the slightest bit of effort to change I would have been satisfied. He didn't do that and I still had my needs. All I'm really trying to say is that when it comes to cheating and relationships, a person has to look at themselves and what they did or didn't do before they go pointing a finger and blaming the other person. If you realized that you could have done something differently and that you were partially to blame it may make understanding and forgiving a little bit easier. Now on the other hand...if he cheated just because he's a DOG and can't be satisfied with ONE woman then he can GO! I won't be able to forgive that one because that will create some serious trust issues for me if he ever did try to come back.
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