[AOII_LB93]

Sorority Belle,

Though I haven't posted on greek chat in a while, I thought that I would chime in on your post. I understand your hurt and anger, it sucks that as a legacy you were passed over. What you do need to look at is the fact that you are with an organization that obviously saw something in you that they treasure and hold to be important to their values and beliefs.

Instead of being as you put it "in some ways happy" with the organization that you chose to return to on bid day, why not give it your best and put 100% into it instead of wondering what life would have been like as a member of your mother/aunt/grandmother's organization. I doubt that your friends and mother would want you to continuously wonder "what if"? What ifs are one of the most damning and irritating things in the world. We all do it, I did too. What if I had chosen another organization, and not chosen to accept my bid from my house, would things have been different and my life in my fraternity and outside have been completely different? Probably. Overall though, I accept the organization that I joined and the friends that I have made through it as they have become some of my biggest supporters and cheerleaders when times were tough. As it turns out, I ended up in the right place after all. The organization that chose me, obviously knew it from the start, it just took a pledge period and some hard work on my part to see that for myself.

You may never know what would have happened, but think about the positives, what could happen, if you go into your organization with an open heart and mind.