I plan on discliping my children my children the way that my mother disciplined me, which has had no ill effects on me and I completely agree with it. I was spanked as a child until I was about 8 or 9. At that point, I was able to rationalize. In my mother's words, she thought I was too old to spank because I understood right from wrong and was able to make good choices. When I didn't, she was able to talk to me and I understood, and then she promptly punished me. Anyone that has very young children knows that you cannot rationalize with them, and often they're not trying to hear "because I said so", although it is the only answer needed at times. Now, what is the age that children should stopped being spanked? That depends on the maturity of the child.
I still stand by the fact that spanking can be effective, as someone said earlier, if it's used in the right way. Before and after my husband & I spank, we explain to them why they're going to get a spanking (be it that we warned them 3 times and they still chose not to make a good choice or whatever) and tell them that we still love them.
Now don't get me started on adults. No, adults should not be spanked, we're supposed to be able to make competent, rational decisions (although those countries that cane do have a low crime rate....hmmmm...). No, but seriously, our justice system too flawed to think of that --- we all know what the outcome would be --- too close to slavery.
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