[QUOTE]Originally posted by Discogoddess:
[b]Beating your kid, when used as a regular means of punishment, becomes useless after a time and most kids decide they'd rather "take the beating/whuppin" than give up whatever behavior caused the discipline in the first place.
If a beating/whuppin does not deter a child from refraining from their negative behavior, I doubt very seriously that taking away toys/giving time-outs/or talking a hole in their head will...so that reasoning applies to both sides.
Most parents don't beat their children to relieve stress or because they can't make ends meet (although I know there are those who do). I'm just speaking from experience, as I look back, I thank God my parents gave me the few whuppins that I received ( Lord knows I deserved them!) Sometimes, I feel they didn't give me enough! Notice I said "few" whuppings ...I was no fool, I associated bad actions with bad consequences. That was enough to make me not do whatever it is I had done again! Personally I was, as my mama used to say, a "hard headed black child". All the talking and books in the world would not have stopped me. Now, I admit I don't know too much about the Bible and how to interpret it, but I was always under the impression that God's words were meant to stand the test of time. However, I'm almost positive you ladies read the Word more than I , so if I'm wrong please correct me.
[This message has been edited by Sexy Mocha (edited August 17, 2000).]
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