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Originally posted by Cream Puff:
If that doesn't work you can send them to their room for awhile and tell them when they realize what they've done then they can come out and explain to you what was the 'cause for their wrong doing. Also when a child see other kids are having fun outside and they're home on punishment, they are more likely to apologize (I don't know how sincere it would be) but nevertheless they'll tell you they're sorry and promise they wont ever do that again and ask if they can go out and play
[This message has been edited by Cream Puff (edited August 17, 2000).][/B]
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Ok Cream Puff, I have two questions for you.
1)What is/was your major?
2) Regarding the above statement...You are joking right?
Just because a person belives in hitting their children, does not mean they are lashing out without asking the child why they did what they did. On the contrary, if a child does something wrong/bad/unbelievable ...the first thing a parent should do is discuss the problem with him/her as to resolve it then and there. Now, if the child keeps "acting out"/being disrespectful (remember you have already discussed the problem as well as the future repurcussions of his/her actions)...then this child needs to be hit, in my opinion. Taking away toys, video games, etc. may work with smaller kids (approx. 3-7 years old) but probably not with older kids. Taking away phone privileges and such with older kids may or may not work, depending on how important what you're taking away is versus how important it is for him/her to keep up the negative behavior. Think about two kids who are always playing with the stove. One child hears about the danger of playing with fire over and over (he gets a few toys taken away, maybe even a time-out)...the other child gets burned. Which child do you think is more likely not to play with the stove again?
I do not think parents should ever hit their children in a fit of anger however. They should wait until they have control of their emotions. When I was a child, I could have gotten in trouble at noon and it would be around 10 at night when I "got it". My mother always waited until she had calmed down to discipline my bad *ss! A little spanking never hurt anybody...and remember...all the classes/books in the world can't refute what the good book says.(See topic of this post above)