No no no no ladies you have it wrong lol
It has very little to do if the woman is prissy or opinionated or has a lot of personal preferences per se.
It has everything to do with how much the woman's sense of the above impacts everyone around them.
So for example, lets say it takes you two hours to put yourself together before going out, if the guy never has to wait for you, you are never late, and he doesn't have to reconstruct his day because it takes you two hours to reconstruct your face, you are not high maintainence.
But if your attitude and actions limit or make the people around you jumpy, then you are high maintainence.
For food, special ordering is ok, but special ordering beyond the restaraunts ability to cope, or driving your server nuts, or requiring that you go to another eating establishment is high maintainence.