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What a predicament! If you release a legacy too early, there are hard feelings along the lines that the chapter didn't get to know her better. If you release a legacy right before Pref, there are reeeaaaallly hard feelings, more like shock. If it works out that the PNM is happy where she pledges, that at least is one positive out of a sticky situation.
My best friend from HS is a legacy to another GLO. She really felt more comfortable with the Kappas, but I think she would have considered the other group had they offered her a bid. When they released her after Skit, she was a little relieved that the decision to cut them had been taken from her. Her sister, however, was hot! Her sister didn't go to Ole Miss, so at least there was that.
Another friend of mine had a sister going through at Clemson (my friend did not go there). She was cut right before Pref. It really was a shock because she was everything GLOs are looking for--smart, pretty, loyal, active, etc. She pledged another group and is happy. She has a position of leadership, too. She liked this group also, but what if she had "cut her throat" and acted snobby at the other parties--she would have been released from everyone then! Everything worked out for the best, I guess.
My chapter was in this situation when I was in college. The sister of two very active, recent alums came through with a below average GPA. She had no activities to speak of. I won't go on, but you get the picture. We agonized over her, but in the end we released her, early enough to not give her false hopes. I don't know if it was the right thing to do or if there were irreparable hard feelings, but that's what happened.
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