[kddani]

I read your post, and I see absolutely nothing that could be taken as "unfair" treatment.

*She was invited back several times. My sorority also has a rule that if you invite a legacy to pref, she must be at the top of your bid list (thus automatically giving her a bid). If they invited her several times, they obviously either liked her a lot or really wanted to try to give her the chance to live up to her billing. But in the end, when you pick what women to invite to pref, you are picking women that could be your sisters on bid night. Sometimes a potential new member may be super nice, etc. etc. but her personality just may not fit in with the chapter or fit their needs.

* She could only make it to 5 minutes of Round 2? So what? She was invited back to round 3, so it's not like she was cut because of that. How is this any evidence of the sorority not wanting her there? THEY INVITED HER BACK, AGAIN!

* I'm not sure how this is a "classic" example of turning a whole family against the greek system. It sounds more like a problem within the family. From what you say, it really sounds like this girl had no choice but to try her hardest to go to this house. Yes, she may have liked it there and she does have the legacy, but ANYONE who rushes, no matter how great you are and how many recs you have, needs to keep an open mind and consider other houses as well.
I think this is more a "classic" example of a rushee with blinders on only going for one house.

*They're not donating any money? That's petty of them, and once again, their own personal problem. There's NEVER a guarantee, in any organization at any campus of getting in a certain house. If they had been lied to or deceived somehow, yes they would have a right to be very upset. But they weren't.

* Their alumnae chapters? It's not the alumnae chapter's business. What goes on in membership selection and the reasons women got cut are ritual and private, even to other members.

*The house being one of the "top 4" on campus. That means many other girls wanted them. In many cases, houses have more legacies going through rush than they have bids to give. Someone has to get cut.

This sounds like a very ridiculous situation that the family should have seen coming.