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Originally posted by valkyrie
I haven't weighed in on this subject (haha) so far because I haven't really known what to say. I'm not skinny and I'm not overweight, although I used to be a little chubby. I'm definitely on the "curvy" side of things, though, but I have decent muscles and I work out all the time. I've really never experienced comments from anybody about my weight.
Anyway, it really makes me sad to read about all the problems women have as a result of weight, no matter what their weight is. It seems like our society has a terrible effect on women -- it's like we're insecure no matter what we look like. We can never live up to what we think we're supposed to look like and be, so we end up feeling miserable, and it seems that part of our misery is expressed by ripping on others.
This has to stop.
I think that those of us reading this thread are good people who are willing to make an effort to improve things. I think that we all need to take it upon ourselves to do what we can to make things better. We should all vow to never, ever criticize another woman about her weight, or do anything that might make her feel bad about herself. We should speak up if we are with anybody who does -- if you hear someone make fun of a woman by calling her "fat" or "anorexic" or ANYTHING derogatory, SAY SOMETHING. Let her know that it is NOT ACCEPTABLE to judge women on their weight and make fun of them. This is the worst form of expressing one's own insecurity. It's important to remember that if you are secure and happy with yourself, you don't need to make fun of anybody else. Ever.
Yes, I could lose a few pounds, but dammit, I am curvy and sexy and I feel good about myself and I look damn hot most of the time. Anybody who wants to try to make me feel bad about that can KISS MY ASS. I hope that someday ALL women can feel good about themselves.
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I am gonna have to cosign on this and add:
Why do people get offended when xomichelle says being fat is ugly? Does xomichelle really matter in the grand scheme of things? Are you really worried that she thinks something is ugly?
I use that example to say this...you know, you can't please everyone. I am aware that not everyone is going to think I am super hot (although I happen to think so, lol). So why worry about things you can't control (i.e. people's perceptions of you)? I mean if YOU think you are ugly/fat/etc. then YOU should work on it. But don't do it because someone ELSE thinks so. Who cares? I am sure if we really wanted to we could find ugly things about everyone (except me, lol). But really, there are more important things to worry about.