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Originally posted by paulaKKG
Another house I know, let's say XYZ, has dropped people second party (After breaking all sorts of rush rules by telling the girl that they are the only house that really wants her). Then after dropping, they give the girl a snap bid when not enough people they bid accepted. Our panhel rules let houses invite back lots of people after second party, which is often well over HALF of the people still in rush. Would you really want to be in a house that doesn't think you're even in the top HALF of rushees? sheesh. The sad thing is the poor girl was so upset that XYZ lied to her, that she didn't attend anyone’s party - even though she was invited to three final parties. (which is why she was eligible for a snap bid). It also happens that the girls' RA is in XYZ house, and she makes sure that the other snap bids left under the door "disappeared" except the XYZ bid. (See, they tell the girl, we were the only ones that wanted you). I don't even think I have to mention this, but they later made the girls' life so miserable she de-activated. How unfair to the girl - I think she would have been mcuh happier elsewhere, if given the chance to look.
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I don't think that the first part of this is necessarily a terrible thing -- it might just be the sorority acknowledging that they made a mistake during formal rush, or that they didn't feel like they got to know her well enough during formal rush or something like that. But you're right, when the system starts to get abused, that's when we have problems. I have a friend who rushed at a small liberal arts university with three sororities. Total is around 55, but quota is usually around 10, and they have deferred rush, all of which leads to the fact that no group is ever at total. This can lead to a lot of dirty rushing. When my friend rushed, her favorite group was the biggest group, ABC. ABC already knew that they were going to make total, so they told a bunch of girls, including my friend, to suicide ABC after Prefs and that they would snap bid them the week after rush. That is exactly what happened, and my friend is now a happy member of ABC. At the time, neither she nor I knew that what ABC told her to do was against the rules (she was a rushee, and I hadn't rushed yet). And I think that's part of the problem -- the PNMs are the ones being affected by the rules, and if the PNMs don't KNOW the rules, then infractions don't get reported.
I think one thing that everybody's missing is the fact that, unless you decide to have a free-for-all rush with no rules whatsoever, rules are ALWAYS going to get broken. During informal rush here, XYZ offered a rushee a bid two parties before they were technically allowed to because they were afraid they were going to lose her to another group. Fortunately, the infraction was overheard by another sorority member and reported, and the rushee in question did not take XYZ's bid -- ultimately, XYZ lost her to the group that they were afraid they were going to lose her to. And there was just a post in the rush forum about total rules being broken during COB-ing. So it's not formal rush that's the problem -- it's when the rules aren't enforced or carried out fairly, and this applies to formal rush, informal rush, COB, whatever. I think formal rush just gets more than its share of "bad press" because there are SO many more rules in formal rush; therefore there are more rules to break.
