Hello Ladies:
I want to say that a lot of women that I know have been in some SHADY relationships with men (me included). I think what is essential , as you grow (which can often be a painful experience) is to realize that we attract what we essentially are.
I had a friend who always dated men who were unavailable to her (either physically, emotionally, financially, something). When she began to reflect she realized that she was really unavailable herself. It was easier to date men who wouldn't really want a relationship and the TRUE prospect of one of them getting serious scared her (although she acted like that's what she wanted). She was in grad school, financially dependent on her parents, etc. so marriage wasn't even really "available" for her to take interest in. So, she attracted men who were unavailable as well by weeding out the potential, nice, financially stable, forthright brothahs and "hooking up" with the more rough neck types who were easy for her to be around because they never questioned her goals/objectives in life, etc., etc.
Am I making sense?
Women need to take time to be alone and find out what we REALLY want in a man and out of life. Until we do, we will find ourselves dating losers JUST because they were there and we were there and why not?
The book The Artist's Way is excellent for "finding" yourself and finding creative energies that most of us lose sight of following after these crazy men. Even if you are in a BOMB relationship, quiet time with yourself is essential to the soul.
I am rambling...I hate when I do that.
PEACE
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