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I agree with MoxieGrrl that suicide is a selfish act done for unselfish reasons. Most people who consider suicide are so absorbed in their own misery that they don't realize how much their suicide will affect their family. One of my cousins killed herself when she was 14, and her twin sister, her parents, her entire family were dealing with it for years afterwards. I don't think she could have imagined how much pain she brought them. And whenever you put the (usually short-term or medium-term) pain you're feeling before the (always long-term) pain you'll cause the people you love, that's selfish.
I also agree with James that those who attempt suicide but don't succeed are generally looking for help, not death. There are quite a few ways to kill yourself that are almost always successful, but many times people will choose other, less failproof ways (like pills) because they aren't quite ready to die yet.
I don't agree that those who are severely depressed are generally so self-absorbed that they blow things out of proportion, though. Most of the time, moderate to severe depression (not just random sadness) is caused by things outside the person's control: brain chemicals, lack of sunlight. So to blame the depression on the person is usually not correct.
Hugs for you, Lana, but I hope you know there is ALWAYS a better option than suicide. If you're in therapy, why not tell your therapist that your medication isn't working -- they can up your dosage or put you on something else that hopefully will work. And if you're not in therapy, you really should be -- it will help.
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