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Originally posted by James
Sorry that I hit a nerve, but would you be willing to meet me half way and agree that beating a girl might be different than say treating her "badly" which is amorphous and undefined?
I can honestly say that 90 percent of the boys I know treat their girlfriends badly by the standards of comparison that I would use. Poor relationship skills.
But there is an unwritten guy code that we just don't sell eachother out that way. If she is/was willing to put up with what she thought was bad behavior, thats kind of on her.
Also, we are taught in Fraternities that brothers ALWAYS come before girlfriends. Brotherhood is forever, the average GF is transitory.
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Yes it is a different situation but think of it this way.. Brother1 does something bad.. Brother2 doesn't try to help his brother or do anything about it.
Is Brother2 really a good brother if he can't tell Brother1 what he did/is doing was wrong or try to help him?
I will never understand this whole priorities thing that some fraternities (or some sororities) teach their members. Why do you have to put a priority number on important people or things in your life?
Anyway.. that is all I am going to post about this.. I don't want to hijack the thread.
Edited to add: No James, a girl beating a guy is not ok either. If for some reason a sister, close friend or whoever I knew was beating a guy, I wouldn't just pretend it wasn't happening.. I would try to find her some help. But I guess that's just me.