Sorry that I hit a nerve, but would you be willing to meet me half way and agree that beating a girl might be different than say treating her "badly" which is amorphous and undefined?
I can honestly say that 90 percent of the boys I know treat their girlfriends badly by the standards of comparison that
I would use. Poor relationship skills.
But there is an unwritten guy code that we just don't sell eachother out that way. If she is/was willing to put up with what she thought was bad behavior, thats kind of on her.
Also, we are taught in Fraternities that brothers ALWAYS come before girlfriends. Brotherhood is forever, the average GF is transitory.
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Originally posted by texas*princess
I don't see what is so anti-brotherly about not agreeing with the way a guy threats his girlfriend.
This really upsets me on a personal level, because at my other university, one of my best friends was BEAT by her boyfriend who happened to be in a fraternity.. not once but TWICE. I don't know about anyone else here, but I would respect a man more if he had the balls to tell his brother what he did wasn't right instead of just pretending like nothing happened. Of course, the brothers did nothing. This guy that did this had alcohol problems and none of his brothers offered to help him in any way... nope they just helped feed his problem.
So whatever.. it's guys like that, that just p!ss me off. Sorry.. had to vent.
I know not all guys are like this. I know some guys who are real gentlemen whether they are greek or not. They know what's right & what's wrong, and aren't afraid to act on it.
If they don't have the guts to speak up when something wrong is happening, they don't deserve to call themselves men.
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