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Originally posted by AlphaSigLana
If someone lost their virginity at a young age they aren't going to be very wise-- so at the time they may have thought they were in love, but when they get older they realize how stupid they were. So if they have a lot of sex partners find out what age they lost their virginity it may have made a big difference. But If it is a problem then don't date the person bc it will always bug you. I never want to date a virgin bc I feel guilty that I'm not and when I went to Christian school I knew so many girls that were waiting until they were married, so I would hate to 'take' a virgin when there is someone that has been waiting for one if that makes any sense.
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I agree that if someone lost their virginity at a young age, they aren't going to be wise about sex, at least for a long time. I myself am very careful, and won't get into the numbers situation because I think it's hard to determine how many is "too many" in general, but I know a lot of people who are extremely stupid in their sexual lives and it makes it hard to respect them when they don't care about themselves.
I want to address the "waiting until marriage" discussion: I personally believe it would be very difficult to marry a man without having had sex with him before the wedding night. Sex has become such an important part of many marriages, and when you don't get a chance to "test the waters," so to speak, you may be selling the marriage short. I have a great deal of respect for ANYONE who can wait until marriage or engagement to have sex because the pressure is so great in society to have sex. But I myself cannot picture marrying a man who I do not have sexual chemistry with. I know people can change, but I think sex should be something that is always enjoyed and doesn't have to be worked through during the first week/month/year of a marriage.
Just my opinion, but for all of you who want to wait, I do have a TREMENDOUS amount of respect for you; you have amazing willpower!