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Originally posted by CutiePie2000
From there on, let's say you met someone in person and you felt that they were not suitable for membership.
To me, part of being an adult is having the skill to "say no" to someone and do so diplomatically. If someone cannot say "no", then it's their problem, not the prospective alumna initiate's.
Thoughts, anyone?
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You took the words right out of my mouth.
I come from a culture in the USA where people speak their minds clearly. It is dishonest to not do so.
No matter where you are from, or what your cultural norms are, the epitome of rude is to string someone along and not give them a straight answer to their inquiry, one way or the other.
I have no illusions about the AI process; I understand completely that the answer may be "No." If that is the case, I expect some tact to go along with it but I'm a big girl and I can handle it.
For all of you current and future alums, please lizzen up:
If you are approached for AI, give a clear and polite answer when the time comes. Do NOT let people just dangle, hoping they'll "go away" if you don't want them. This is cruel and civilized adults do not treat people like this. It also reflects extremely poorly on your GLO as a whole. Also, if you are delaying contacting a person you DO want to have, you risk losing them to another GLO once word gets out that a valuable person is looking to affiliate.
Also, given that AI is becoming more widely known, I believe the NPC orgs should have clear information about their policies on the subject on their sites. Whether the policy is "don't call us, we'll call you" or "please do inquire!" say it. It is not discretion to not openly state public policy--it is asking for problems.
That's my take on the subject--backing up everything CutiePie2000 said.
Adrienne (PNAM-to the bitter end)
