This is how Alpha Gam has always had it and the fact that *your chapter* decided to make their own tradition does not mean that is right either. I am sorry to by harsh about it but the chapters should be following Alpha Gam's guidelines. Outside of that there are always close friends, etc. I do not think your chapter is going to fail due to the change to the "policy" of Alpha Gam. As an alum you can help your chapter find a way to make this work within your chapter. It may work for them...
